Editor’s Note: It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to make a proper posting. But unlike previous delays this one has good reason. Our son has been born and we have been, understandably, been busy with all things related to this event. Having said that, the following is an account of Caleb’s birth, written at the hospital the two or three days immediately after he was born.

While his original due date wasn’t until July 2nd, we had a feeling that our little baby would arrive early. Tuesday, June 28th was a beautiful day out and after I got off work Kelli and I decided to go for a mini-hike at Mt. Airy Park. Normally we wouldn’t have been able to do that but since Kelli had been given a comp-day from work she was well rested. It’s hard to say whether things got started because of the hike or if it was simply time for the baby to arrive. Though I do think the walk was a little more exertion than we anticipated.
Later that night, at around 1:00 in the morning, Kelli woke up to use the restroom (something which occurs quite frequently in the later stages of pregnancy). After coming back to bed she noticed a gush of fluid and thought that her water had broken. But with this being her first baby we really didn’t know what was going on. However, she called the doctor’s line and I guess it’s pretty standard that if the patient says that she thinks her water broke, they have to say she should come in. Because, what would happen if it really did and they didn’t?
So at 1:00 in the morning, we packed all our stuff up. I wasn’t entirely convinced that this was it but it would be silly not to bring everything that we needed with us if it was. Of course, none of our stuff was quite ready, though Kelli did have a “hospital bag” of clothes and such ready to go. When we arrived down there, we were seen in triage to determine if Kelli really had gone in to labor. They hooked her up to the monitors which let you know the baby’s heart rate and when the contractions were occurring. This was when actual contractions started happening, some of them quite intense.
After hours of checks and whatnot, it was determined that Kelli was not in labor and though she was having contractions at 10 minutes apart they couldn’t tell whether these would continue or taper off. So we headed back home at around 5:00 in the morning. On the face it looks like this visit was a waste of time but it did allow Kelli to know for sure what her contractions should feel like and if we hadn’t gone down she would have been freaking out at home when they started up and had wanted to go in anyway.
When we got home around 5:30 I knew that I wouldn’t be able to work a full day having been up all night. But there was some things that I wanted to take care of before the actual delivery so I headed in to work early with the intent of putting in a half day before coming home and passing out. Kelli and I decided that she would call me if she had contractions at 5 minutes apart for at least an hour or if she had 3 contractions in 10 minutes.
At work, while I got most of my issues taken care of, I wasn’t good for much else. And though I planned to stay until 11:00, by 9:00 I was feeling rough and planned to head home at 9:30. That’s when Kelli called me to update me on her contractions which were getting frequent and painful. So, I headed home at 9:30. Kelli was worried because she didn’t want to be sent home again. But I assured her that with contractions this close, around 4 minutes apart, she was going into labor and they would not be sending her home.
As quickly as we could, we packed the car up again, and headed down to University Hospital. We pulled up and walked in to the admittance lobby. It was clear that Kelli was struggling with walking so I had her sit down and tracked down a wheelchair for her. When we made it to triage they found that she was 7cm dilated, 100% effaced, and that it was going to happen soon. I started sending out text message to family members letting them know that the delivery was beginning. This was it!
They next moved us into the delivery room and we waited there for the different doctors, nurses, anesthesiologists, and assistants. Everyone was very friendly and helpful. I really liked how one of the nurses took the time to talk quietly and assuredly to Kelli while others were busy getting things ready. I don’t know exactly what she said but I could tell it was words of encouragement and assurance.

At this point, Kelli was fully dilated and it was just a matter of time. Kelli did want the epidural and they were busy getting that in while telling Kelli to try not to push just yet. With some difficulty they were able to get the epidural in and the pain from the contractions eased. Since Kelli’s water had still not broken, they decided they would break the water for her, so as to hasten the delivery.

Once the water was broken they coached Kelli through a series of pushes. I was right in there on the action, holding one of Kelli’s legs with my left hand and holding her head up with my right hand. Automatically, I was taking and holding breaths right along with her. I don’t know why this happened, perhaps it was a way of letting her know that I was right there with her, or at least, as much as I could be.
After several attempts and progress we decided to take a break. We covered Kelli up and dimmed the lights for about half an hour. Then, the doctor came back in and asked how we were doing, we said fine. Kelli was able to ride through her contractions without pushing and so we would wait a little bit more before resuming. But the second he closed the door, she started having the urge to push immediately! I ran out the door but he was already gone! So I came back in the room and we called them back in using the call button.
Those few minutes were stressful because I really thought that Kelli was going to push that baby out any second and the doctor was somewhere else. The nurse made it back in and decided she would stay with us and call the doctor once the delivery was imminent. When the time came, she called him on the his phone to let him know he should come. He said he knew because he “could hear her screaming down the hall.” At that point they had also called in the anesthesiologist to increase the dosage.
Unfortunately, the dosage was added just a little too late and for all intents and purposes Kelli delivered the baby close to naturally. She was in intense pain and to the dismay of her mom and mother-in-law, was a screamer. It was those moments that were the most emotionally challenging for me. Here was the one I love tremendously in so much pain. She managed heroically, always giving valiant pushes and in what seemed like no time, we saw the head start to pop out. The next few minutes were intense and some of it is a little cloudy. At one point, I guess after the head had come out but the shoulders were still within, a gush of amniotic fluid went flying through the room, and even though I was by Kelli’s side, I got a fair amount on me. Shortly after that, the baby was completely out, and the doctor said, “It’s a boy!”

We already had the name picked out, so immediately I thought, “here is Caleb Patrick.” In a second they called me over to cut the cord. I was so nervous! Then they placed him on Kelli’s chest and we began to acquaint ourselves. He came out kicking and screaming and it took him a little while to calm down. Then, I grabbed the camera and took the first post-partum picture of him. Family time, and pictures, continued while the staff was taking care of Kelli’s lower half. Caleb was born on June 29, 2011 at 2:20pm weighing 7 pounds 12 ounces.

About two and a half hours later we moved over to our room where we would be staying for the next two days. It was in this room that many of Caleb’s relatives and family friends came to visit him. First was his paternal grandmother, she came right away after work. I had called her to let her know that we were ready for visitors and also asked her if she could pick up something for me to eat. I was starving, the last I had to eat was at six in the morning and we were pushing six in the evening. She came with some Skyline for me and immediately went to hold Caleb.

Soon after, Caleb’s maternal grandparents showed up. They were very excited and this was their first grandchild. Aunt Laura and great grandmother Sonnie came with them.

At 9 o’clock visiting hours were over and we were left with just the three of us. Of course both of us were utterly exhausted. We had both been up for almost twenty four hours. It was definitely time to sleep. The nursery wasn’t open so we had Caleb in the room with us but during the night our nurse was kind enough to take him out with her for a little bit so we could get some quality sleep.
The next morning, our friends Eric and Liz Reeves showed up to see the baby and all. And then a little after them came Caleb’s uncle Eric and with him his girlfriend Liz.
Later on in the day, Uncle Ken showed up and then afterward Grandma McNamee and Aunt Bekah.
The second night was a little more stressful. Caleb continually showed signs of being hungry but once he started feeding he would fall asleep right away. We were unsure about giving him a pacifier but after Kelli staying up until at least 4 in the morning we had to do something in order to get some sleep.
On Friday, July 01, we were anxious to be discharged. It took until about 2:30 in the afternoon to finally get out of there. We took Caleb to his new home.

The first day it took a little time to transition from calling this baby “it”; I had been calling him that for the past 8 months. Also, when I would look at him I would think, “Okay, this is Caleb”. But gradually, yet quickly, he has made his presence known in our new little family. And we are tremendously blessed to have him. He is such a healthy baby and looks to be well aware of his surroundings. I can’t wait to get to know him more each and every day for many years to come.
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